I know Tinder gets a bad rap for having creepy and at best, noncommittal guys (I had the same preconception when I started). But surprisingly, there’s a few good ones out there. A handful of my friends met their S/O on a dating app (all very good guys I approve of) and have been together for years! Not only that, my very first Tinder date ended up becoming my boyfriend.
Daniel and I met in March of 2017, so it’s been over a year since we first started talking. Here’s the story of how we met!
I had gotten out of a fairly long term relationship during my senior year of college. In the six months following that, I went to a lot of places and just focused on myself and being independent. During this time, I really didn’t think about guys at all. I wasn’t interested in finding someone new and I honestly didn’t mind being single. I had the time of my life when I went on a study abroad trip in Europe with 3 of my friends, and when I returned, I was spontaneously jetsetting anywhere from Vegas to Seattle in my free time. Every weekend felt like an adventure.
When the travel high finally came down, I felt like I had spent a good amount of time being independent. One of my friends, who had just started using Tinder was nudging me to join her. By this point, I wasn’t entirely opposed to meeting new guys, so I joined her for fun. I didn’t think I was interested in getting into a relationship just yet, but talking was okay. Plus, I was a tad bit curious about what it was like since I’ve never used it before.
I created my profile, which was a pretty lazy attempt tbh. All I did was upload 3 photos and write “send foods” in my bio. (Ha, I thought it was clever and I was too lazy to think of a better bio.) I started swiping, getting matches, and talking to new people. I was pretty selective with my swipe rights so I felt like I did a good job filtering out most of the creepy guys! I was able to avoid most of the gross advances. There were a couple nice guys here and there who were a little too eager to ask for my number or meet up (like dude we just started talking 20 minutes ago?!), but besides that, everyone was pretty much just a regular guy. Those conversations mostly ended after we ran out of things to say – there just wasn’t much of a connection.
And then I saw Daniel… *dramatic pause* LOL okay it probably wasn’t that dramatic. I just came across his profile and he seemed like an interesting guy. His bio talked about his culinary endeavors, his volunteer work in third-world countries, and most importantly, his fat shiba inu. I just thought to myself, “Wow! This guy is interesting. He’s done so much and has…*gasp* real interests?” Compared to the other guys who just said their hobbies were going to the gym and hanging out with friends, Daniel seemed like the most interesting guy in the world. He had his Instagram connected so I took the liberty of doing some light stalking. I saw some pictures of his cooking and was thoroughly impressed. He made perfect risottos, beautiful macarons (do you know how hard it is to make macarons?!), and fancy dishes with uni. Anyway…he sold me so I swiped right and we matched.
I waited a little while and he didn’t strike up a conversation… (poo). So I waited some more. On the second or third day, I thought “What the heck, I’m just going to say hi.”
Couldn’t think of anything witty or funny to say, so I simply asked him what his dog’s name was. (LOL is that a lame way to start a conversation?) Nonetheless, he replied and we got to messaging each other back and forth. Our conversations went pretty smoothly and we talked for the next few days, pretty much nonstop.
Meeting for the First Time
I can’t exactly remember how long it was until we finally decided to meet, probably like two weeks (Also I asked him out first. Girlpower, haah!) We met at a nearby pizza place. I remember pulling my car up to the parking spot and seeing him already waiting by the entrance. My first impression of him was that he was so tall! (Or maybe I’m just short.) We made eye contact and gave each other awkward smiles. As I was getting out of the car, I was thinking, “Oh god, I hope this night isn’t going to be awkward.”
The night didn’t turn out as awkward as I expected. Seeing as we had a lot to say to each other online, the conversation flowed pretty well in person too. We split a pizza, and had a little credit card war over the bill. We talked about our mutual friends, all our favorite restaurants, and our common love for Harry Potter. I’m sure we chatted about a hundred other topics too – I just can’t remember them all. I don’t think there was a single lull in our conversation that night.
After we finished our pizza, we walked over to a nearby restaurant where he claimed they made the best drinks in town. He was friendly to everyone who worked there, waving and hugging everyone (because he used to work there himself), and I was even surprised by how chatty he was with the other customers sitting at the bar. Honestly, I admired that about him – how easy it was for him to chat up strangers and almost immediately befriend them. It’s something I wish I could get better at.
Anyway, we ordered a round of cocktails and I was blown away by how well-made and balanced they were. He was right when he said this was the best place in town! I definitely wasn’t expecting drinks of a craft cocktail caliber, but that’s exactly what I got there. Since he was already a food connoisseur of sorts, I wasn’t surprised that he also knew quite a bit about drinks. Hanging out with him was so fun because he just had a wealth of knowledge on all things food and drink.
We talked and laughed all night! I’ve honestly never had that instant connection with anyone (relationship or friend-wise), so I’m surprised our personalities clicked so well. I was actually supposed to meet up with my girlfriend (the one who actually told me to make a Tinder) later that night, but I totally lost track of time and didn’t make it. And I’m normally a very punctual person so you can see that’s how much fun I was having on our date.
What Happened After…
Daniel and I continued to talk after our first date. We started spending every week together. He would take me places all over OC and LA, like his favorite sushi and Japanese BBQ restaurants, and even Disneyland. He had an annual pass and I bought a 3 day ticket for 100-something dollars, so we ended up going to Disneyland together 3 times! We also did stuff that was honestly very couple-like, such as grocery shopping so he could make us dinner, and doing at-home wine and paint nights. The next few months following our first encounter were filled with fun and adventures.
Still, I was a bit apprehensive of taking it to the next level and making it “official”. I felt like with my past relationships, I just dove right in and didn’t take proper time getting to know them. That might have been their downfall since after all the initial honeymoon feelings wear off, you start to realize you had less in common than you thought, and lifestyles just start to feel more incompatible. If Daniel was really a special guy, I wanted to take my time to make sure of it. So we continued seeing each other for 4 months, talking every day and going on dates every once in a while.
One night, we went out with a few of my friends. We all had a great time and at the end of the night, they asked us why we hadn’t made it official yet. Honestly, they pinned us in a corner on that one, haha. Seeing as there wasn’t really a way around the subject, my friends basically made us have the “defining the relationship” conversation. I was a little apprehensive about even having this discussion, because I didn’t know if four months was still too soon. I really didn’t want a repeat of my past relationships. But I really did like him and no one had ever made me feel as happy and open before, so we finally took the leap.
Fast forward to today, and we’ve been officially together for 9 months! Everything worked out in the end and we couldn’t be happier. I love all his little quirks and how weird and goofy we can be with each other. I felt like I was always a little guarded or couldn’t be 100% myself in the past, but I feel completely comfortable with Daniel. He’s seen every side of me, with nothing held back. I could say a lot more sweet things about him, but I feel like it would gross you out, so let’s just say we’re very happy and looking forward to what’s in store for us in the future!
Guys, this is proof that Tinder works lol. My first Tinder date became my boyfriend.